We've often heard the show must go on, and I guess it's true, Although many shows have been canceled for various reasons, sickness, weather, death. etc.
Life is never canceled. I recently experienced the death of my brother-in-law, one of my husband's and my best friends. But our loss is nothing compared to the loss of his children, but especially his wife. Our lives will go on with the day-to-day events, shopping doctor's appointments, etc. And their kids will return to work, caring for their families, etc. But his wife, how does her life go on? She's alone, doesn't work, and has nothing to take her mind off him. Nothing to look forward to. Her loss is so much greater than ours.
Right now, everyone keeps in contact, her kids stop in every day, but how long will that last? Eventually, their lives will return to normal, Their kids demand attention, sports, school activities, interfere, and she's left to fend for herself.
How does one recover from such a loss? She's never worked, her husband didn't want her to, and at her age what kind of job could she get anyway? Does she even want to work? She's never had a hobby, never made friends outside of her family, she didn't need to she had him. He was her life. Since he retired, every waking moment was spent with him. Everything they did, they did together. He didn't have outside friends either, They had friends as a couple. Their life revolved around each other.
We did so much together, cookouts, card games, just hanging out. We will miss that. But she will miss it more. I pray she finds some friends, some outlet to help her cope. a hobby, some interest that will help ease the pain as time goes on. Because, yes, life must go on.
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So sad but too often a fact of life with older people. Happens to men as well. My husband lived his career twenty-four seven. When he became ill, he had nothing but TV and my company but I was often busy. Hope your fried fines something
ReplyDeleteVery difficult situation, especially when a wife identifies herself so much with her husband that she doesn't seek interests of her own. I hope she discovers herself as a separate entity and finds the things she really loves, and pursues them. Best wishes to her on that journey.
ReplyDeleteSo sad. I know many women left in the same position. Luckily my husband and I had separate interests, and then there was writing. Have you broached the subject of her writing her life story?
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