Defining Success as a Writer by Diane Bator

Defining Success as a Writer 

All of my life I’ve defined success as a writer by being able to quit my day job and have a real writing schedule where I can fit in marketing and appearances as I choose. I’m still waiting for that version! But I have definitely learned a few things about being a writer.

1. You don’t have to be a “Best-Selling” author to have great fans! I’ve been grateful to meet some in person—even people I don’t know! Having even one fan can make you feel successful.

2. While it would be great to have one of those books that sells millions of copies, I think the stress of doing that twice in a row might make me crumble. Not that I’m not up for the challenge, mind you! Simply finishing your first book can make you feel successful.

3. Joining writing groups and organizations such as Sisters in Crime and Crime Writers of Canada can be great motivators, even during a pandemic. I’ve met all sorts of other writers, book coaches, and so on just by putting myself out there. Suddenly, I have new writing friends from all over the world. Rubbing elbows with other, more accomplished writers can help you feel successful.

4. It's awesome to see books YOU WROTE on a bookstore shelf as well as on your personal shelf! It’s like Christmas every time a box of new books arrives. Holding your book in print can help you feel successful.

5. Mashing together genres is a real thing so you don't need to feel limited by "the rules." Aside from mystery, I’ve dabbled with fantasy and young adults novels as well as writing my first—but far from last—play! The more you write, published or not, the more you can feel successful.

6. You learn to bounce. I’ve had rejections, bad reviews, and people telling me flat out that I need an editor, a better editor, or them to edit my books for me. Those things can sting and push me down for a while, but have always bounced right back up and got back to writing. The less you can let bad reviews get you down, the more successful you could feel.

7. Not everyone is comfortable with talking to audiences. Over the years, I've learned to talk for an entire hour about me, my books, my journey, writing as a craft, my cat…whatever I need to bring up to fill in any quiet gaps in a presentation where no one has any questions. Talking about your book to others can make you feel successful (or at least like a real writer!)

8. Do some research and find ways to market your books. I've done in-person presentations, radio interviews, podcasts, blog posts, and so on without stressing out about what I’m going to say. Most of the time, the interview has ended and the host and I continue to talk for another half hour! Doing interviews of any kind will help you feel successful.

9. It's possible to train yourself to write about ANYTHING! As part of one of the writing groups I’ve been part of, we use prompts. Several of my novels were written one prompt at a time! Using prompts will help fuel your writing and can help you feel successful.

10.  Feeling restless? When I’m having an off day and don’t feel like myself, it’s a sure sign I need to get back to writing. A day without being creative can drag me down and make me feel like something is missing. Even fifteen minutes of writing per day can help relieve stress and help you feel successful. 

11.  You don't always need to quit your day job. In fact, I’ve worked many day jobs and, while none of them were my dream jobs, they were always good sources of fodder for books. I never would’ve written any of my Gilda Wright Mysteries without working in a karate school! I also wouldn’t have written a play if I hadn’t worked in a theatre. Working a day job can be a great place to get ideas which can help you feel more successful.

12.  Make friends with other writers. I love to encourage and support other authors. I started my blog Escape With a Writer to do just that! While I never seem to find the time to fill my own blog with interesting writing stuff, it’s easy to find other authors to promote and I’ve even been able to work with a publicity person and help with their authors! Spending time brainstorming with and helping other authors might help you feel more successful.

If you think you can’t write, why?

If you think you don’t have time, try!

Ten to fifteen minutes a day is great. All you need to do is start!

Diane Bator

Website: https://dianebator.ca/

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A Writing Challenge by Joan Donaldson-Yarmey

 

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A Writing Challenge.

It was Wednesday evening, the night of my writing group meeting. As writers do when they gather, we were talking about writing. One of them gave us a writing challenge. We had to write five beginning sentences for five stories. We had ten minutes to do it.
After much thought, I came up with these five:
If you didn’t know your actual age, how old do you think you would be?
The day that my brother blew his hand off is the day that I lost my father to booze.
Whatever the past, the future is spotless.
I don't give a dang, for I have seen the elephant.
The only time I like water is when it is cold and the day is hot.
As each one read hers, we discussed them trying to figure out how the story would go. At the end of the meeting we decided that we should take one of our sentences and build it into a short story, or the beginning of a novel for our next meeting.
I took my second sentence and here is the beginning of the novel I wrote around it.

     The day that my younger brother, Ralph, blew his left hand off, was the day that I lost my father to booze. Not that he hadn’t drank before. He'd have a beer on Saturdays with the neighbours or a drink at family gatherings but it was that day that he began drinking every day as soon as he got home from work.
     And the change was immediate. When he and mom came home from the hospital after leaving Ralph, Dad went to the cupboard and pulled out a half empty bottle of whiskey. He got a glass and poured it almost full. He drank it down. I was watching him as mom told me and my younger brother, Jimmy, that Ralph had lost his hand and would be in the hospital for a few days. Dad took time off work and he and Mom went to see Ralph every day. But every evening Dad drank himself into a stupor.
     When they brought Ralph home from the hospital the only change in Dad's routine was that in the morning instead of going to the hospital he went to work. He got up sober, left the house at his usual time and was sober up until the moment he entered our door after work. It was once that door was closed on the outside world that he'd sit in his chair in the living room and pour his first glass of whiskey or vodka or rum whichever he had on hand at the time. Mom would serve him his supper there while the rest of us ate at the table in the dining room. His evenings varied little. Sometimes he'd stare at the television set, sometimes he'd stare into the corner of the living room. And he continued drinking all evening until he passed out, usually in his chair, sometimes on the couch, occasionally he made it to bed.
     He became, and remained for the rest of his life, a functioning alcoholic

     So far the story is not finished but I still have hope that one day it will be.